New author shares an emotional journey

Nothing worth doing is ever easy.  Just ask Maple Lake’s newest author, Becky Foreman.

After 10 years of enduring the trials and tribulations of writing and publishing a book about the adoption of Becky and Doug’s son, Tyler, the finished product was delivered at the end of January into the hands of its author.

“We Have a Baby For You” is the story of the nearly two-year adoption process that finally resulted in bringing Tyler from Romania to the family’s home in Maple Lake.  It was a process filled with so many twists and turns and joys and frustrations that Becky began taking notes and writing the story in her sleep.

“Everything that happened was just so unbelievable,” she said, remembering how she would get up at 5 a.m. to write down the thoughts and memories that filled her head. “When I’d wake up, it was just like God had given me another chapter.”

But, as she soon discovered, there are reasons published authors are a fairly rare species.  “At the time I wrote it, I was homeschooling Alissa (the Foreman’s oldest child), I was a pastor’s wife and a mom to little kids,” she laughed. “With all the needs of being a mom, the book would just get put on the shelf.”

And then there was the unexpected, such as the time her book was nearing completion about six years ago when her husband’s church was vandalized. One of the vandals stuck a screwdriver in a computer disk drive, and the disk that happened to be in there contained Becky’s book.     “It wrecked my disk,” Becky said. “I did have a hard copy, but I had to retype the whole thing.”

After that task was finished, Becky found an agent for the book and mentioned that the book might make a good screenplay. The agency happened to have a screenwriter on staff, who spent the next two years writing the script for a possible movie.  However, after the completion of the screenplay, the agency changed hands and although Becky had a completed script, there was still no book.

Then came the discovery on the Internet of iUniverse, a digital publishing company which allows individuals and companies to publish their own professional quality books. A friend who works for a newspaper in Iowa edited the book and gave Becky advice before she sent it off to the printer. And with a first order of 300 copies of “We Have a Baby for You,” Becky became a published author.

“I never thought of myself as a writer,” she laughed. “I never went to college because I thought I’d have to write papers. And here I wrote a book. I can’t believe it myself.”

The book shares the Foreman’s thoughts and feelings as they first explored traditional paths to adoption, and then decided to brave the red tape in a third world country undergoing political upheaval. It was a road of broken promises, deadlines that came and went, a blizzard of paperwork, and uncooperative government officials. But the light at the end of that tunnel was a baby boy who needed a good home with a loving family.

On the book’s back cover, Doug wrote that the lessons learned through this experience could apply to anyone in any situation.  “Through the eyes of a mom, this book is written for all of us who know the joys and frustrations of foreign adoption,” he said, “as well as those who may still be in God’s “holding pattern” as they struggle through whatever pains life may deal them.”

And how does 12-year-old Tyler feel about being the main character in a book?  “He thinks it’s pretty neat,” Becky said. “He’s pretty excited to have his picture on the cover of a book.”

The book is also a sign of the changing times for Becky, who started out 10 years ago writing in longhand, then on a computer with 5 1/2 floppy disks which are now extinct, moving to 3 1/4 disks and finally, CDs.

“We Have a Baby For You” is currently available for sale at the Maple Lake Messenger, Lady Bug Books, Heavenly Grounds Coffee Shop and the Book Break in Buffalo. It can also be ordered from the Barnes and Noble website, since iUniverse is a division of Barnes and Noble.

Although the Foreman’s adoption agency is considering the book as a resource for potential adoptive parents, Becky said it wasn’t written for that purpose.  “It’s not just for people intent on adopting,” she said. “It’s how God saw us through this. And no matter what you’re going through, no matter if it’s a bad marriage or difficulty with your job, God’s there to help you through it.”

And will there be more books?  “I will never do it again,” Becky laughed.   “I had this story I just had to tell.”